Monday, January 5, 2015

Cheers for Mentors!

Mentorship is a good plan all around, for the mentor, the mentoree, and for society. John Donne reminded us “No man is an island.” It’s fine to be independent, even an introvert and bit of a recluse, but at some point we all need support, guidance, and encouragement from people other than our family and friends. Mentors can help us along the way with good advice, a shoulder to lean on, and reminders of our potential and worth.

Since January is National Mentoring Month, I’ve decided to write about my longtime mentor and my experiences with mentoring.

At the college where I teach, one of our most successful initiatives is our student mentoring program. Even the top-notch students need someone to talk with who will support, advise, and encourage their path through academia. But students struggling with their studies and with critical resources, such as family support and financial aid, especially benefit from the college’s mentor program, as do those who are first-generation college students,. Even I had an unofficial mentor when I first was hired as an adjunct professor at the college. “Connie,” who’s now retired, was my go-to person for everything. She’d been at the college for years and could help with any issues or needs.

My intro to college at age eighteen was a tough one. It had a few missing rungs on my academic ladder, and those in place sometimes were shaky. I started in a psychology program at a Pennsylvania state teachers’ college. A small English scholarship and a grant from the local Lion’s Club paid my tuition and board. I scratched around to pay for books and materials and got by on a very lean budget. Nothing was wasted: Pencils scribbled notes and assignments until their erasers were gone and they were too short to hold between my fingers; pens were used down to the last dab of ink. I skimped on shampoo and soap. Roll-on deodorant got watered down. I even made a tube of toothpaste last all of my freshman year! My mom sent me a letter every two weeks and always enclosed a few dollars and words of encouragement. She was single at the time and trying to get by on her own limited resources.

The summer after my freshman year, I worked two jobs trying desperately to save enough money to go back to college in the fall. It didn’t happen. I cried big tears, but my mom reminded me that some paths aren’t straight and flat. “You’ll get back to it,” she assured me, and I did.

A long period of what I call academicus interruptus began. I worked, got married to a military man, had kids, and took a college course here and there wherever our military assignments landed us. I never let go of my dreamed of getting back to college and finishing my B.S. The chance finally came at age 32.

I had lots of help along the way. In 1986, I met my mentor, a man I regard as the dalai lama of educators; he helped me look inside myself, refine my life goals, and set a course for a desired destination—

Photo courtesy of UCONN

Stephen Jones was my professor for several English courses as I finished my undergraduate degree at University of Connecticut. I liked him from the start, even more than my official adviser, and I was amazed at how easily he talked on many levels and infused his lectures and conversations with profound buried messages. His assignments always had layers of meaning for me and sank deeply into my psyche. He returned my first essay with some very inspirational comments in the margins, namely, “I rarely see this level of work.”

I told him I had launched a semi-successful career as a freelance writer—semi-successful because I didn’t make much money at it and because, in my mind, I lacked training in journalism. Everything had been learned by trial and error and imitation, and I wasn’t confident it was the right stuff. I had one book completed that went to print while I was a student in Stephen Jones’ class. (Guide to Florida Lighthouses, Pineapple Press, 1987) He held a small celebration for me in the faculty lounge and, tongue-in-cheek, announced that I believed I had put the cart before the horse when he thought I was really pulling the cart and the horse too!


I discovered Professor Jones was an author too, and he had served as a lighthouse keeper in the Coast Guard. His year at Harbor of Refuge Lighthouse in Delaware had inspired a book of the same name. Being a lighthouse fancier, I devoured the book, thrilled to find a narrative that cut through the romance to tell a realistic story. I was trying to do that too, in a second book that was in the works. It was eventually published in 1995 as Guardians of the Lights: Stories of U.S. Lighthouse Keepers. Steve was on the cover of the first edition. (shown above in the b&w inset photo)

Harbor of Refuge Lighthouse, Delaware, where Steve Jones served as a Coast Guard keeper in 1960.
Steve's book about his time on the lighthouse.

In the meantime, Steve Jones and I found much common ground in our love of lighthouses and all things nautical and our shared passion for learning. Our relationship had evolved from last names to first names. I had a job at Mystic Seaport Museum and access to archives and relics. Between Steve and the museum, I produced a trove of articles for newspapers and magazines and worked diligently on research for my second book. I was thrilled when Steve asked me to be a keynote speaker for a “Working on the Water” conference at the college. By this time, I was in graduate school working on an M.A. in Education.

We had many discussions about education and work, and about writing too. He assured me I didn’t need that journalism degree to be a successful writer. Not even an English degree was necessary. “You need to understand audience to be a writer,” he told me, “and it’s obvious you do.”

He also told me successful writers write, every day, and that they view the world through the prism of writing. Stories are everywhere; I needed to keep my antennae up and tuned in to catch them. Each tale could be bent and shaped to fit an audience. (Writers call this the angle.) Steve also assured me writers have second jobs, which people think are their first loves…but it’s really the writing they crave. Verbiage pays in satisfaction, and sometimes in bylines and flashes of fame, and less often in a few shekels that might pay for a fraction of the time spent on the effort. Steve has made, and still makes, his “living” income teaching and running a boatyard. He also owns Flat Hammock Press in Mystic, Connecticut.

Steve and I being honored by the Avery Point Lighthouse Preservation Society in 2000. Steve's boatyard restored the lantern of the lighthouse, which stands on the Avery Point campus of UCONN where I first met Stephen Jones, English professor.
(Lighthouse photo from Wikipedia)

I teach too. Many writers do. Teaching is, truly, much like writing. Teaching requires working with an audience and sharing information, and then evaluating how well you did your job. Students produce good assignments and pass tests to validate youen. Readers respond by reading more of your work, posting positive reviews on Amazon, and sending you mail and attending book talks/signings. Teaching and writing are both forms of edu-tainment.

The Old Lighthouse Keeper on a return trip with me in the late 1990s to Harbor of Refuge Lighthouse.
Though 3,000 miles separate us, Steve has kept in touch with me, as good mentors do. I haven’t been in his classroom as a student in almost thirty years. Of the college texts I’ve kept for sentimental reasons, most are from his courses: “Literature and the Sea” and “Nature Writers.” Every few months I get a postcard from “The Old Lighthouse Keeper,” my handle for Steve. These days, he sends email and messages between our Linked-In accounts, often grousing that he’s not sure how to communicate electronically and wondering where those messages go, “damn things!” He’s at an age where cyberspace is sometimes confusing and exasperating. Aren’t we all?

We are lucky if we find a lifelong mentor. Mini-mentors are more the norm—those influential and encouraging people who pass through our lives. I have plenty of minis, but Steve is the constant intellectual and spiritual benefactor. Yes, he breezes in and out of my distant ken with cryptic postcards and emails, but I feel his presence in my work every day. For one thing, I follow his advice about writing every day. That’s about the best suggestion anyone can give a writer.

Happy National Mentor Day, Steve, and all mentors. It’s a good thing you’re doing.


  1. I, too, was a student of Stephen Jones--from 1969 to 1971. I recall fondly several moments of his both in private conversation and in the classroom. In part, he inspired me to become a professor of English, which I still am, at Dutchess Community College in Poughkeepsie, New York. Avery Point in many ways was a "community college," and I have always liked that environment. Most of his books appear out of print now, thus I think an article reconsidering his work would be appropriate. Perhaps the article would at least bring him to the attention of old and new readers and might stir interest in reading him.

  2. I, too, was a student of Stephen Jones--from 1969 to 1971. I recall several conversations with him, both in private and in the classroom. In part, he inspired me to become a professor of English at Dutchess Community College in Poughkeepsie, New York. Avery Point is a "community college" in several ways, and I like that environment. It appears that most of his books are out of print, thus, perhaps, he deserves an article appraising his work. That article would bring him to the attention of new readers and to the re-attention of old readers and might spark interest in reading him again.

  3. Hi John. I attended Steve's retirement ceremony in June at Avery Point. I was pleased to be asked to speak. He's doing well, though having some issues with getting up and down. Such a good man and a wonderful instructor!


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